Dating while married with children

My husband and I have been married for 9 years, and we have 2 children. I have a full time job in the financial industry and he is a full time student at an Ivy League School. We have so much on our plate and sometimes we forget to devote time to each other. We often put our relationship in the back burner and chose to put our kids and our careers first. If we were any other couple, I don’t know that we would make it as far as we have so far. Just like any other couples, we argue but we ALWAYS talk it out. We have learned over the years that spending quality alone time with each other not only helps our relationship prosper but it allows us the opportunity to get to know each other again and again. In essence, our date nights give us a chance to fall in love with each other all over again.

When we were living in San Diego, date night was easier, cheaper and more comforting because my parents live in San Diego. All we had to do was ask them if they could watch the boys for a while. We didn’t have to go on UrbanSitter in advance and interview sitters and pay an arm and a leg to watch them and hope you made the right choice. (I love UrbanSitter btw…best sitter app ever) Having my parents less than 10 minutes away was a blessing. Now we live in NYC. We have family in New Jersey so we often steal our teenaged nephew away for the weekend so that he can watch the boys. Driving to Jersey from NYC can get pricey. It is $15 just to drive across the George Washington bridge which is nothing compared to the traffic and the drive. We are lucky to at least have our nephew (who is a great kid btw) watch our kids from time to time even if he is all the way across the GW bridge.

This past weekend my husband and I had a date night. He is in the military and gets all kinds of perks. One perk is that we have access to free or discounted tickets to Broadway shows in NYC. This time we won access to front row seats to a Broadway show called Kinky Boots! It was one of the best shows I’ve seen since we have been living in NYC. We found out that we won those tickets a day before showtime. So we quickly got on UrbanSitter and booked our regular sitter. We would have asked our nephew, but the show was on a Sunday and he had school the next day (he’s in HS). Luckily, our regular UrbanSitter sitter was available so that my husband and I could enjoy each other for a few hours. So I got dolled up from head to toe and he (of course) looked handsome. We hired an Uber driver to take us to the theatre and just talked the whole way there. He opened doors, took my coat, and bought me a drink. He put his arm around me during the show. All the little things he did reminded me of why I am so in love with this man. We watched the show and talked about our favorite parts during intermission. We then stopped to get a slice of pizza (cognizant of the time we were paying the sitter for) and rushed home to make it back on time. Overall, it was a great night.

When we are together as a family unit, our parental instincts take over and we get into mommy and daddy mode. So taking the time to go out on a date, we are able to be ourselves as woman and man. We flirt, kiss, and hold each other. We remind ourselves of why we fell in love in the first place!

(Literally front row seats)

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Hello all! I am a Navy wife and a mother to two boys and two furry girls.

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